The world divided into two

When it comes to sex, the bible only has two categories : married and un-married.

All sexual behaviour, including thought-life, belong to the 'married' category. 

Marriage is defined by Genesis 2 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." 

The entirety of what sexual behaviour includes is both explicitly and implicitly laid out both in words and in silences. As always, context is key, but the general 'how God feels about it' is pretty clear.

And I think we need to pay special attention to the description of Jesus and the woman at the well. How Jesus treated her, what He thought of her, what He asked of her (and I mean initially, the water he needed as He was thirsty), what He was happy to talk about with her and what He offered her completely freely.  Context is very much anthropological, geographical, political, etc.  ie this is yet another incident that Jesus loves and accepts and *includes* sexual sinners.

Jesus was also in the unmarried category. Despite what church communities tell us by word and deed, being unmarried is totally ok.                

And this is yet another topic where there is a lot of energy that should possibly be focused differently. I would like to see way more focus on how we 'love one another' because this will help un-marrieds as well as marrieds. That the people that Jesus talks of in Matthew 19 may be cared for and be part of the church. Also, we have a *lot* of single women in the church.